- Mark: You never cook anymore.
- Me: Neither do you.
- Mark: Chinese Takeout?
- Me: Yep.
I have a few days off. So I’m going to schedule a Q&A with Mark this up and coming weekend.
Probably Sunday with the way things are looking now. I will keep you all updated! :)
imagine having someone who only wanted you and didn’t flirt with anyone else and didn’t make you uncertain whether they liked you or not
I sent Mark to the grocery store. Here is a list of things he came back with:
Guess which item I actually asked him to pick up?
Mark said that if we decide to have kids he’s wearing this in the hospital room pre-birth:
A few weeks ago, after re-watching Boys Over Flowers again, I wanted to explain my thoughts on soul mates from a similar perspective. I’ll repost again in case you guys didn’t see it! :)
I’m watching Boys Over Flowers for the millionth time and there’s something I want to kind of elaborate on that the drama addresses in the earlier episodes.
When JanDi and GaEul visit the psychic on New Caledonia, she tells both the girls that she see’s two men in her life: 1. Her soulmate, and 2. Her actual husband. Now, as the drama progresses, you intentionally figure it out: JiHoon is her soulmate; JunPyo is her to-be husband.
So, for those of us that were shipping JiHoon and JanDi together like there was no fucking tomorrow, this was the most heartbreaking thing to watch. I mean, it played out like it was going to be a possibility: JanDi liked JiHoon almost immediately, and JiHoon was really there for her when JunPyo was acting like a Kindergartner that throws rocks at things that he likes…but alas, it wasn’t meant to be. JiHoon, couldn’t let go of his noona to make room for JanDi before JunPyo stepped up and things progressed as they did and he ended up having to be “good guy JiHoo” for both of them as they went through the BS drama that is Boys Over Flowers.
(DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I WANTED THIS TO HAPPEN OK)
But, a lot of my followers, have always asked me the ultimate question in romance (especially when it comes to Mark and I) which is: Do you believe that Mark is your soulmate? Essentially, though, what you’re asking is whether or not I believe I’ve ended up with the ONE person in the ENTIRE world I’m supposed to be with.
My answer is no….which may sound harsh, but let me explain a little.
The person I think is my soulmate….we met in college. We were attracted to each other IMMEDIATELY. There were fireworks, smiles, lots and lots of “chance encounters” and moments that honestly felt like they couldn’t have possibly been real. We liked each other, but it was never enough. You can’t just like someone to make it work..so very much like JunPyo (in a less flashy manner, though) Mark stepped up and he really took the lead…even when I was hesitant or unsure about it; then much like JanDi, I eventually realized that what he was doing was coming from a really good place, and before I knew it, I had fallen in love. My soulmate, after all was said and done, realizing this missed opportunity, then did what JiHoon did…and encouraged me to stay with Mark and essentially pushed me right back into his arms.
What the word soulmate means to me, is finding that ONE person where everything just falls together. It takes very little work, and you end up having a lot of the same interests, and things progress so naturally that you are hardly even aware of it. And I found that, but that person was too afraid to do anything about it. We both knew we could be good together, and we both knew, I think, after about a month, that we could have easily made a relationship work, but one person cannot do it alone.
So, do I think I’m apart from my soulmate…yes. I do.
But, am I lacking or void because of it? Hell no. Mark and I found that connection in our own way and time. It took more work, and we put a lot of time into but we LEARNED how to work at romance and love because it didn’t come so easy to us, and now, after being together nearly 10 years, we have found longevity and happiness in that and each other.
I realize this isn’t a necessarily romantic notion, and I know this may be a turn off for a lot of you that are really romantic, but this, to me, seems more rewarding, and I feel like it’s paying off now for both of us and the truth is, I couldn’t be happier.
I know that many of my followers are really young, and so your ideas about love and romance are sort of cultivated by what you see and hear…but I want you all to be open to the possibility that just because you miss out on an opportunity to be with someone in which everything seems extremely natural and easy…doesn’t mean that you’ve missed out on love.
So many people focus on the idea of finding their soulmate that they miss out on other people that could potentially make them very happy. And I want you all to be happy and find that, so just remember to be open to the possibilities of love…because it’s amazing what can happen when you do…